Having trained a particular girl for the past year you learn things, pick up on behaviors, and have interactions with parents and the like. The session wasn’t going great particularly because the athlete was not giving much effort. I asked, “why are you here?” The response began with tears. I stopped. After asking a series of questions I eventually landed on the right one. She was upset over being made fun of at school because of struggling academically. The same boys that saw her as “cute” were calling her stupid. The name calling is bad, but the betrayal worse. She is learning who is real and who is not. A bunch of stuff came out including what real friends actually look like, how to study more effectively and even putting down the cell phone. Meanwhile, an interaction with mom (who was present) peaked it’s head. After talking with them for about 15 minutes I noticed both were tearing up. Some blaming went back and forth, some admissions, but over-all it ended well. Admittedly, I wondered how the 45-minute car ride home went.
Often times the ones we are close to and interact with everyday seem to be the hardest on us. In my career as a skills instructor, I’m really interested in what makes up the whole athlete. I am floored and humbled by the God-moments that come up during these basketball relationships. Likewise, God puts people in your life every day. Do you recognize those moments? Are you willing to risk speaking up, ask questions and take time to listen?
Life is really beautiful. Those who want and need you in their life are everywhere, just look around and be ready.
- GRADES: Finding a study partner, asking questions of the teacher and attending free homework sessions are essential in the learning process.
- FRIENDS: People that like you for your looks and turn around and mock you for your weakness are not friends. They are people that want to use you for themselves.
- PHONES: taking your cell phone to your room and looking at it for hours into the night is not healthy on so many levels. Parents try keeping cell phones plugged in on kitchen counter from 8 pm – 6 am. No phone use during those hours or something close.
- PARENT: It’s hard to see your little one grow up and display some ugly behavior during the teen years, but you can’t lower yourself to their disrespect. Keep the separation of parent and child. Once you go down there and display similar behavior you quickly lose credibility.
- GROWING: We have to grow ourselves if we are going to lead others or be available for others. Leadership is really serving others. Service is a joy and we could use some more servants.
David is a father, husband, business owner, and ministry leader. He is Founder and Director of a Hope 2 Offer, an Iowa non-profit, focused on counseling and public speaking and The Orange Planet, a central Iowa based basketball instruction company started in 2008.
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